Dear Dr. Dot,
Is there a polite way to tell a girl she has really bad breath? I met this hot girl and we get along great, but when I get close to her and smell her bad breath I start to feel ill. This is not a one off; it’s like that every time. It’s bad enough that she smokes, but this other smell is what’s turning me off. I can’t seem to find the words to tell her.
Try offering her a strong gum or mint every time you meet up. Hopefully she gets the hint, if not, tell her you hate cigarettes but want to kiss her. You are lucky; at least you have the cigs to blame. Some folks don’t smoke and still fume at the mouth. Gum disease and/or being hungry make the mouth smell like a compost heap. I am not one to tip toe around this topic, I once left a guy who reeked from the mouth so bad, it made my eyes water. If you are too afraid to be blunt, tell her you are paranoid about germs and can only kiss after you both brush your teeth and rinse with mouthwash. A good rule of thumb, if someone stinks upstairs, they will stink downstairs even worse, if you catch my drift.
Dear Dr. Dot,
My boyfriend says I am too jealous, which could be true, but I don’t know how to tone it down. He is a guitar player in a band and many women want him and seem to ignore the fact his has a girlfriend. I find myself snooping through his emails, pockets and handy for clues. I can’t give him up, I am hooked. Please help, but use a fake name. Thanks.
Dating a musician, politician, athlete or model takes a lot of patience and practicing the ‘look the other way’ approach. The more successful the man, the more ‘eggs’ will be thrown his way, as in female eggs. Like Chris Rock said “A man is only as true as his options”. It is human nature. These men are used to women pining after them and usually end up with the one who is apathetic towards them, the woman who has her own agenda and is oozing self-confidence. Even if that doesn’t describe you, you have to pretend it does or you will live in painful jealousy hell. Snoopping and searching for clues is what he should be doing, not you. Let him pine after you! The one who loves the most in the relationship, usually hurts the most, so just relax and let him love you.
I cheated on my girlfriend, but the one-night-stand meant nothing to me. My girlfriend found out and won’t speak to me. We have been together for 4 years, is there a chance? Do women forgive and forget? I want her back big time!
It is best to write her a letter. Face to face talks of cheating can get heated and blown out of proportion. Explain to her that men can easily love one but still have fun with another, without altering that love one bit. Sounds brutal, but tell her it was just like exercising with another, that only she rules your heart. You are not married, so it may make it easier for her to forgive you. Promise her if you two marry, then your heart, soul and body are sacred only to her. If she takes you back, watch your back, as women mainly cheat out of revenge. Meow.
Dear Dr. Dot,
About 4 years ago I had a breast reduction operation, which left unsightly scars. This makes me insecure to undress around men and I even try to avoid letting them touch my breast during sex. One guy I was with saw them and complained that the scars turned him off. Should I tell them up front about the scars before I get intimate? I am very unhappy.
Consider the scars a way of weeding out superficial assholes. If they can’t accept your body as it is, buh bye! No point in being unhappy, just try to make the best out of it. There is a gel you can buy to put on scars, it fades & melts them away. It is called Dermatix. You can google it to find out where to get some. Don’t tell them upfront, everyone has a scar or two, trust me, I also do massage for a living, and so far no one has a perfect body, well, except Sting and Lauryn Hill 🙂