Hey Dr. Dot,
My guy and I have been together 8 years. We are both 26 and very happy. He has a male “friend” at work who claims is hetro but I know he is in love with my guy. He even had his name tattooed on his leg in Arabic (so not many could read it) along with a bear, as he knows that is my guy’s favorite animal. In other words, he sticks to him like glue and my guy doesn’t seem to mind, but it PISSES me off! SOS!
This ‘buddy love’ is a popular but annoying problem, especially in big cities, the Gay thing seems to be contagious. It’s almost as if some puppies haven’t left the pack yet, they are too afraid to. His admirer would like nothing more than to drive you away, so try avoid showing he bothers you. Don’t talk to or about him at all. If this becomes unbearable and your man starts slacking off when it comes to you, either start hanging out with one of your girl friends and spend most of your time with her, and be extreme about it to show him how it feels OR if that isn’t your style, just tell him you feel that you are interfering with his intense “friendship” and it’s best that you part ways. Put your love to the test and don’t take any crap, life is too short.